By Amanda, Denver,CO United States
PROM at 16 weeks + 3 days. Delivery at 16 weeks + 4 days.
Story added: 2009-11-02

With my first pregnancy everything seemed to be going fine I had alot of cramping and pressure went in to see the drs and they said it was my uterus strecthing and it was normal. At 18 weeks and 5 days I noticed alot of pressure went in to see the dr and she said my water bag was buldging out. She wanted me to go to L&D right away to do a emergency cerclage. When I got to the hopsital which was only a block away my water broke. I started to bleed they said I was dialated to a four and they was nothing they could do. They suggested to induce me to speed up the process and I agreed 17 hours later I deliverd my baby boy we named Cristian. He stood alive for 3 hours but with his lungs not developed he passed away. We chose to bury him and this was very hard for us and We went to support groups. The dr told me that there was no signs of infection placenta looked normal and to try again. She had no further answers for me except to say if it happened two more times they would then look into it and do more testing. I was not ok with that answer and decided to get another opinion. I told my story to my new OB and she did run test found out I have MTHFR and Factor V Leiden ( which are blood clotting disorders) also said I had PCOS which means I don't ovulate. We waited 6 months then started to try again and it wasn't looking good so I sought out a fertility dr and the day I came in to see him he ran a urine test found out I was pregant (weird) we were so happy and also glad I didn't need to take fertility drugs. So with this pregnancy I was on bld thinners and baby asprin also progestone shots because my levels were low. At 10 weeks my levels kept droping and there was no heart beat on US. Dr told me I needed a D&C and thats what happen he tool tissue samples but they were all normal.. So he said try agian when we were ready.. We were going on vac in 5 months so we wanted to wait after vac in mid July to try again. Well fourth of July came and found out we were pregnant agian. Very excited as well as very nervous and anxious... Before I had gotten preg the third time the fertility dr said I should do a HSG X ray to make sure my uterus was normal and it was normal. Anyway so with this pregnancy I was on the same bld thinners progestrone shots and everything was going good. At 12 weeks I started to have alot of cramping and I noticed a glob of mucous come out on the tissue when I wiped. I went in to the ER and the dr said there was nothing they could do for my If I was losing my baby I was losing it. They are so blunt no compassion. Anyway turned out I had a UTI and about the mucous they said they weren't worried about it (GO FIGURE) At 14 weeks I had a cerclage put in since the first preg I had dialated to a 4 that went ok was on bedrest for a week and then went back to work. I noticed that I was leaking a little on my panties I told the dr and they asked what does it smell like I said urine they told me amniotic fluid does not smell like urine and I was prob leaking urine. A week later I was still leaking and a 11 hour day at work I noticed my panties were soaked and my pants were wet. i thought ok must be a bladder problem and I'm leaking urine. The next day the samething called the dr I told them it can't be urine they asked does it happen when I laugh or sneeze I said no it happens when I sit or stand. So they told me to come in. I arrived at the hospital and hoping for the best I thought ok please just let it be urine. My husband arrived and he to was very nervous. The nurse stuck a Q tip in my vagina and it hurt so bad I yelled she pulled it out and my water bag broke gushed fluid everywhere. I knew right then and there that I was reliving the same nightmare two years before. The Dr came in and confirmed what I was thinking she said the best thing to do would be to deliver and the chance of my baby making it would be 1% and I could get an infection and die. So we thought about what we should do with no hope at all we decided to induce labor. They took the stich out and put a strip in my vagina to induce me. 5 hours later I was not dialating but hemorging and they were very concerned at that time I did not know how much bld I lost but I lost a liter of bld now I know why they were so concerned. So they said we can not stop the bleeding we have to do emergency surgery D&E I did not want this my baby be chopped up and I would not be able to see him or hold him no way. But with all the bld I was losing they would not let me just lay there and die. They said they would have to do a hysterectomy and I did not want that at all. So the boars of directors had to come down and the main head Dr in charge said you can not do a D&E she is to far along and you can damage her organs. So they cked on me and my bleeding had slowed down enough they were comfortable to keep induceing me. So they did it through my IV couple of hours later I delivered my second son my baby boy but I did not get to see him right way i started to bld again and they could not get the placenta all the way out so they said I needed a D&C right away and that I could still need a hysterectomy. They gave me a bld transfussion and off I went to surgery. After surgery they said everything went good the bleeding stopped and they did not need to do the hysterectomy. I got to see my son so small so precious I feel like I killed him.. We buried him as well and it is so hard to have to children buried. This is when I found this website and seen that some of you woman went against what the dr said and tried to keep them. I did lots of research on the internet and had tons of questions for the drs and I wanted answers. So I seen the dr and the placenta came back normal (surprise) and they have no clues why it happen. There was no infection no edema. So I asked my questions got no answers and was told to try again I'm still young that this was a fluke and it was like I got struck by lightening twice was there words. That they have high hopes that the next pregnancy will be a success but I told her thats what they said about this one. Of course they have to say those things. I don't want to try for a couple of years since I have been preg for three years in a row I need a break if at all I want to try again. People tell me have hope you can adopt of get a seragant but with what money hope when you live paycheck to paycheck thats not likley. I think what if I tried to keep him would he have suffered what if he had brain trauma or heart or lung problems I wouldn't want him to suffer because I wanted to be selfish. But then what if he would be fine and would have made it how knows, no one does thats the answer no one no one has any reason or sulution to this horrible thing that happens to us. I wish they would figure out something that could be done for all our angels..